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Saturday, April 26, 2014

REPOST: The Neuroscience of Focus (from blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness)


Scientists John Gaspar and John McDonald from Simon Fraser University in British Columbia have recently discovered that we have an anti-distraction mode in our brain (See an overview here or the actual study here). This means that focusing on what matters moment-to-moment is not only about intentionally paying attention to something, like reading this blog post or listening to a friend, but also about suppressing all of the distractions in the background.

Why is this important to us and what can we do about it?

In this day and age where companies spend a lot of money to figure out how to get our brain to pay attention to them, we need to understand how to switch those off to reduce our overwhelm and keep our sanity.

The way technology has been going and is headed is a result of some highly refined analyses on how to get our attention. When our attention is fractured over a period of time our stress rises and we become less effective. For a while now, Los Angeles has had electronic billboards on the side of the roads. I noticed my vision often going up to them while I was driving and being more engaged for longer periods of time than a regular billboard. It felt like a bad idea for road safety. Someone took it to the courts and now they have been shut off.
“Distraction is a leading cause of injury and death in driving and other high-stakes environments,” notes senior author McDonald. “There are individual differences in the ability to deal with distraction. New electronic products are designed to grab attention. Suppressing such signals takes effort, and sometimes people can’t seem to do it.”
It seems to me that another good study would be to take this new understanding and apply it to people during meditation.

For example, a simple practice like mindfulness of breath gives you an object to pay attention to, the breath. The intention is to bring attention to the breath and simply experience it as it comes in and goes out. It helps some people to say, “in” as they’re breathing in and “out” as they’re breathing out.

This is taught by mindfulness teachers all over the world. I also teach people this practice in the corporate world through an evidence-based live online program called Mindfulness at Work (only available to corporations through eMindful.com). Thousands of people have taken this program who are often practicing in cubicles with a number of coworkers talking next to them. These voices are distractions during the meditation and also while they’re working through the day. Needless to say, they’re voices they would often like to suppress.

The instruction is simple.
Consider that in any moment we have foreground and background awareness. The intention is to allow the breath to be in the foreground and the voices of the coworkers to be in the background. But inevitably the distracting voices pull attention and they come into the foreground.

That is perfectly fine.

When we become aware of that we are “mindful.” We can congratulate ourselves for waking up, note the voices and then gently allow them to go into the background of awareness while the breath comes back into the foreground.

We can do this again and again, like a gentle dance, strengthening the brain’s ability to pay attention to what we’re intending to pay attention to while it gets better and better at suppressing the sounds in the background (Note: there are also plenty of mindfulness practices that include being aware of all experience at once, but this one is a good example about working with focus).

What I’m finding is that neuroscience often tells us things we already know from experience. The people I’ve taught have noticed that they get better and better at playing with the foreground and background awareness and eventually are able to focus better often because there’s less stress around it.

Whether you are new to mindfulness or have a longstanding practice, here’s a short mindfulness of breath practice to dip in and play with foreground and background attention (Note: this a practice in The Now Effect and was originally intended for people who have the book. So you’ll notice in the video that I initially thank people for getting the book. You don’t need to have the book and the practice will start very shortly after that).

The ability to focus makes a huge difference at work and at home. Keep practicing, trusting that over time you can get better and better at mastering the focus of your mind.

Warmly,
Elisha Goldstein, PhD
PS – Learning how to gain better control over minds and in turn, our lives, is a key reason I created the new eCourse: Basics in Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program.


Thursday, April 24, 2014

REPOST: 20 Mini-Meditations (from psychcentral.com)

By
Associate Editor

No matter how hectic or stressful our days are, whether we’re sitting at our desks or waiting in line, we have the opportunity to pause and adjust our perspective.
We have the opportunity to be kinder — both to ourselves and others. We have the opportunity to relax and slow down. And we have the opportunity to refocus. Even if it’s for a minute or two.
In her book Self-Meditation: 3,299 Mantras, Tips, Quotes and Koans for Peace and Serenity, bestselling author Barbara Ann Kipfer offers a wealth of inspiration for practicing kindness and breathing in the beauty of daily moments and the miracles that are our lives.
Here are 20 of my favorite suggestions from her book.
  1. Let small chores act as a stop sign to “breathe, relax and experience peace.”
  2. Sit down and “become a human still life.” Don’t do anything. Just breathe.
  3. When you’re driving, focus solely on that experience. “Feel the steering wheel, the pedals, the seat.”
  4. “Listen for the quietest sound.”
  5. Focus on your sense of smell. Take something you’d like to smell, such as a flower or food, and put it up close to your nose. Notice the changes in the aroma. Focus on the sensations in your body as you inhale and exhale. Then try to focus on other fragrances around you throughout the day.
  6. Focus on your sense of touch. Focus on the sensation of your hands touching each other, “your clothes brushing against your skin, and the air moving across your face.”
  7. In the beginning of the week, pick an activity you normally do on autopilot, such as washing your hands, applying makeup or getting into your car. Pause for several seconds before starting the activity. Then perform it with your full attention.
  8. “Imagine that you are a kite soaring in the sky. Surrender to the wind, but be aware of the string that anchors you to the ground and keeps you safe.”
  9. When you’re performing a chore, focus your full attention on your hands. “Note all the sensations in your fingers, your palms, and your wrists.”
  10. Send yourself some loving-kindness (or “metta”). Focus your attention on an aspect of your mind or body that you feel separated from. Acknowledge this. You might say something like: “May I accept this. May I be filled with loving-kindness toward this. May I use the pain of this experience for the welfare of all.”
  11. As you’re trying to fall asleep, “imagine that with each breath you are melting into an ocean of light and space.”
  12. When you turn on the faucet, focus on the bigger picture. “See the water flowing down from the glaciers and mountains, running deep into the earth, sustaining you and all life.”
  13. When you wake up, feel your feet touch the floor. “Be aware of their weight, the floor supporting your body, and the motion of your feet and legs as you begin to walk.”
  14. When you get home from work, every day, stand in front of your door and appreciate the moment. Rejoice in it. “Breathe in and out three times.”
  15. Set an alarm to ring every hour to remind yourself to “wake up and appreciate the miracle of every moment. Say, ‘[Your name], wake up!”
  16. Picture your thoughts as balloons floating by.
  17. Visualize a mountain lake with a smooth, glassy surface. A breeze sends ripples across the water. As the breeze quiets down, so do the ripples, and the water returns to being smooth. When something ruffles you, return to this visualization. “Feel the ripples and then let them settle.”
  18. Think of your mind as a swinging door. “Thoughts and feelings come in and out, like people. Be the door, not the doorman.”
  19. Picture a person or pet you love greatly. Imagine they’re “giving you a look that melts your heart.” Think about the things you love most about them. With each breath you take, let your heart fill with love. “Imagine your two souls connected by the caring you have for each other.”
  20. “See yourself as a small child, fragile and vulnerable, and breathe in. Smile with love to this small child within yourself, and breathe out.”

Saturday, April 19, 2014

REPOST: The Tree of Contemplative Practices (from contemplativemind.org)



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Concept & design by Maia Duerr; illustration by Carrie Bergman

The Tree of Contemplative Practices


The Tree illustrates some of the contemplative practices currently in use in secular organizational and academic settings. This is not intended to be a comprehensive list. Below the Tree you will find links to descriptions of many of these practices as well as a more in-depth description of the Tree and image files for downloading.
Some of the practices on the tree link to further information–either on our website, or on Wikipedia.

Activist Practices

Creative Practices

Relational Practices

Ritual/Cyclical Practices

  • Ceremonies and Rituals based in Spiritual or Cultural Traditions
  • Establishing a Sacred/Personal Space
  • Retreats

Stillness Practices

Understanding the Tree

On the Tree of Contemplative Practices, the roots symbolize the two intentions that are the foundation of all contemplative practices. The roots of the tree encompass and transcend differences in the religious traditions from which many of the practices originated, and allow room for the inclusion of new practices that are being created in secular contexts.
The branches represent different groupings of practices. For example, Stillness Practices focus on quieting the mind and body in order to develop calmness and focus. Generative Practices may come in many different forms but share the common intent of generating thoughts and feelings, such as thoughts of devotion and compassion, rather than calming and quieting the mind. (Please note that such classifications are not definitive, and many practices could be included in more than one category.)
Because this illustration cannot possibly include all contemplative practices, we offer a free download of a blank Tree that you can customize to include your own practices. Activities not included on the tree (including those which may seem mundane, such as gardening or eating) may be understood to be contemplative practices when done with the intent of cultivating awareness and wisdom.

Downloading and Reprinting the Tree

You may use the tree for personal and non-commercial purposes. For example, please feel free to use it to illustrate an academic paper, post it on your blog, or display it in your organization’s meditation room. The Tree of Contemplative Practices is a copyrighted image. Commercial use, including derivative work, is not permitted without permission.
If the tree is published or presented in non-commercial use with our permission, you must mention The Center for Contemplative Mind in Society as the copyright holder of the image (the downloadable files, below, already contain this information as part of the image).
Please contact us at info@contemplativemind.org if you have questions regarding the use of the tree, or if you would like to share with us how you have used it in your work. Thank you!
For printingDownload a 2.6 MB, 8″ x 10″ .jpg image of the Tree of Contemplative Practices (if you require a .pdf or other sizes or formats, please contact us.)

A Blank Tree for Your Own Practices

Here’s a version of the Tree with the practice and branch names removed, so you can fill it in however you wish.

Saturday, February 8, 2014

REPOST: Memory is Not Like a Video Camera: Rather The Present Can Be Spliced into the Past (from psyblog.co.uk)


A new study demonstrates that the way memory works is far from the popular imagination of a video camera; in fact it’s continually being edited cut and spliced together. The study, conducted by neuroscientists at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine demonstrate how how current memories can be inserted into older ones...Continue reading - - >

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REPOST: Don’t Let Anyone or Anything Dim Your Inner Light (from tinybuddha.com)



I was born with it. I know I was. There was a light within me that showed in my smile, my dancing around the house, my love for life, for friends, for family, and my bright future.

I don’t remember the exact day it happened, I don’t remember the last event that did it, but my inner light went out. I was no longer the happy-go-lucky girl I once was; I became lost in an abyss of darkness and sadness. Happiness and joy were thing of the past.
Was it heartbreak over the guy I was supposed to marry who broke my heart? Was it the fact that my parents got divorced and I was suddenly in the middle of it? Was it because I never stuck up for myself or spoke my truth? Did I do anything so horrible that my “karma” was kicking in?
I couldn’t figure it out. I was suddenly paralyzed in fear and my world became a place where I no longer wanted to be; I wanted out.
I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Melanoma at the age of 21. The doctor who performed the biopsy called the house to let me know the results and left a message. I deleted the message.
About an hour later my parents asked me if the doctor had called. I told them yes and that I had deleted the message. They immediately called the doctor’s office in the other room.
A few minutes later they came into my room crying and told me I had Stage 3 Melanoma and needed to have it removed immediately. I wasn’t scared. In fact, I was relieved in a sense that there may be something that removed me from this world of pain I now lived in. I was numb.
I no longer had the ability to form friendships; I lost that knack which used to come so easily to me. I didn’t allow anyone to get close to me. My walls came up so high and I swore no one would ever get in.
The shame, the guilt, the embarrassment of the girl I had become began to eat me up alive. Why was I even here anymore? What was the point?
From the tender age of 18 I suffered daily with pain and fear, and constantly had to tell myself out loud, “I can do this, I can do this,” whether it was showing up for work or any other area in my life.
In order to deal with all this emptiness and fear, I felt the only way out was to drink, do drugs, and self-destruct in any way I could.
I drank to the point where I would black out because that is where I found peace, a total escape from my reality. It didn’t matter to me if I was putting myself in harm’s way or ruining the relationships with those close to me, I had to do it. I didn’t care anymore.
The last straw was on New Year’s Eve 2001 when I went out and went into my usual blacked out state. I ended up telling my friend I wanted to kill myself. The next morning, my mom, who I had a strained relationship with because of her inability to watch me self-destruct, called me and was in tears.
She told me my friend called her and told her I said I wanted to take my life. My mom pleaded with me to get help as soon as possible.
I thought about it for a minute and pondered what she said. Live this miserable life of self-hatred and addiction, or get help. The decision I made was to get help because I had reached my bottom emotionally, physically, and spiritually and had a tiny grain of hope that I had a chance.
Attending my first rehab at the age of 27 was the beginning of my road to recovery and freedom. I wish I could say I got it my first time around, but that’s not my story. Two rehabs, countless relapses and lost relationships, and continuous fear and anxiety consumed me until the age of 38, when I finally surrendered and saw that I could not do this life thing on my own.
Fear ruled my life. It was the gripping anxiety I felt on a daily basis in my stomach and in my heart. I have heard the acronym for fear, which is “Future Events Already Ruined.” I expected the worst to happen in any situation of my life.
It wasn’t until I realized I wasn’t in charge and my self-will had taken me to these dark places that I felt a load off of my jaded soul.
I began to see spirituality as a solace to my pain. I had hope (“hang on, pain ends”) that there was a light beyond my darkness.
I heard you gain strength through trials and emotional bottoms. The fact that I saw others who had suffered and found a way out made me feel like I could do it too. I wasn’t the only one who wasn’t able tocope with life.
I started to see meditation as a way to find the answers to life’s challenges and struggles. This came as such a relief, because I used to think I had to come up with the answers in my head, which was a dangerous place to be since it had led me to this place where I no longer wanted to live.
I began attending 12-step meetings specific to my struggles, which helped me learn skills on how to live my life in a healthy way. I related to people and their pain, and was able to share mine.
Finally my pain was paying off. It allowed me to help others so that maybe they would not have to suffer as long as I did. I was no longer a victim of my life. I had appreciation and gratitude for my dark past.
I began to pray to a higher power. I learned for the first time in my life to let go. Let go of the outcomes, the fear, reactions or actions of other people, my career, my job, and my relationships—all of it.
Am I practicing letting go on a daily basis? No, but the key thing is that I have a willingness to try. Just knowing I have the option to try to let go gives me a peace of mind that I have not had for a very long time.
I had allowed people and situations that hurt me to burn out my inner light. No one turned off my light; I did. Knowing this gave me the freedom to find it again.
Everyone is born with an inner light. Some of us can hold on to it and others lose it and have to work extremely hard to get it back. My road back to my light has been painful, scary, exciting, and fulfilling. I would not change any of it. I am a stronger woman because of it and for that I am eternally grateful.
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/dont-let-anyone-or-anything-dim-your-inner-light/

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TAKE A DEEP BREATH and..."Do Something Silly"



“Friends don't let friends do silly things...alone." 
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SPH SAYS:
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... 
Do Something Silly."

Sunday, January 5, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and..."Love Yourself More"

“What if the only resolution you made was to love yourself more?” ~Cheryl Richardson


SPH SAYS:
TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, 
and "Love Yourself More"


THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
What resolution have you made?

Monday, December 16, 2013

Friday, November 8, 2013

REPOST: "Knowing Our Place In The Universe" (from soulseeds.com)

earth sun
by Ian Lawton  
August 19, 2013
“When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be disappointed to learn they are not it.” ~Bernard Bailey
We’ve discovered a lot about the universe, and still there is so much more to learn. As we learn about outer space, it teaches us more and more about inner space. Think about the idea that we are the center of the universe.
The pivotal moment for young Galileo came when he was 15. He had taken his family’s horse and buggy out late one night, and his parents missed a dinner appointment. When he came home, his parents said, “Gal, we need to talk. You need to learn that the world does not revolve around you.”
This comment sparked a lifelong fascination for Galileo with the movement of the earth and other planets. Well not really. I made that story up. But Galileo DID spend his life bringing new insight to the world about the earth’s place in the universe.
We all have aha moments, when we come to realize our place under the sun. It’s not always an easy lesson to learn. My favorite parenting line says, “I’m sorry you’re mad you just found out the world doesn’t revolve around you. Here, let me pour you a big glass of “get over it”.
There are many problems with believing we’re the center of the universe. We tend to take things more personally, imagining that everything is about us, or else we take on too much responsibility, imagining that everything depends on us. Or else we start to feel entitled, as though opportunities should be handed to us on a platter. When things don’t go our way, it shakes the foundation of our worldview.
Those are some of the personal issues with believing the world revolves around us. There are other bigger issues too. When humans think the universe revolves around us as a species, we can get reckless with the earth, as if the rest of the planet exists for our enjoyment or outer space exists for our amusement. Too often, white, heterosexual men think we hold the bulb while the rest of the universe turns for us, and this justifies all sorts of tragic discrimination.
The bottom line, whether its personal or social issues is that thinking the sun shines out of our foreheads makes us insensitive to other beings. We need to know our place in order to be generous, thoughtful and fair in all our dealings. The world doesn’t revolve around any one of us. It’s more accurate to say that each of us revolves around the world. The more we travel, the more we are exposed to the size and scope of diversity in the world, the more we know our place.
This is what it was like for me to stand outside Galileo’s house in Florence recently and see his tomb in the Basilica of Santa Croce with its representation of the solar system on it. To see Galileo’s tomb next to Michelangelo and Machiavelli’s tombs and to see the place where Leonardo Da Vinci tried to fly on the hills above Florence, makes you appreciate that you are part of a long line of explorers and adventurers.
Galileo didn’t invent the telescope. But he did create a telescope that was powerful enough to see things never seen before. After seeing the moon’s craters, the phases of Venus and satellites of Jupiter, he proved the Copernican theory that earth was just one of many planets that revolve around the sun and not the other way around. Earth is a very ordinary backwater in a massive universe. Galileo helped put us in our place under the sun. We are small, but not insignificant. We have a place, but we don’t own the place. We are a part of the universe, but we are not as self important as we think we are.
You are not the heart of the universe, but the heart of the universe is IN you. The awareness that ALL beings are worthy of love and respect exists inside you, and is the heart of compassion.
Mr Rogers put it like this,
At the center of the universe is a
loving heart that continues to beat
and that wants the best for every person.
Anything we can do to help foster
the intellect and spirit and emotional growth
of our fellow human beings, that is our job.
Those of us who have this particular vision
must continue against all odds.
Life is for service.
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