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Tuesday, April 29, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and... "Re-Affirm What You Know Is Real"


“The world you desire can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours." 
~Ayn Rand

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
What do you need to remind yourself is real and possible?




SPH SAYS: 
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... 
Re-Affirm What You Know Is Real."

Sunday, April 27, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and ... "Just Love And Be Loved"


“The greatest thing you can ever learn is just to love and be loved in return." 
~Eben Ahbez



SPH SAYS: 
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... Just Love and Be Loved."

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
How will you show love today?

Saturday, April 26, 2014

REPOST: The Neuroscience of Focus (from blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness)


Scientists John Gaspar and John McDonald from Simon Fraser University in British Columbia have recently discovered that we have an anti-distraction mode in our brain (See an overview here or the actual study here). This means that focusing on what matters moment-to-moment is not only about intentionally paying attention to something, like reading this blog post or listening to a friend, but also about suppressing all of the distractions in the background.

Why is this important to us and what can we do about it?

In this day and age where companies spend a lot of money to figure out how to get our brain to pay attention to them, we need to understand how to switch those off to reduce our overwhelm and keep our sanity.

The way technology has been going and is headed is a result of some highly refined analyses on how to get our attention. When our attention is fractured over a period of time our stress rises and we become less effective. For a while now, Los Angeles has had electronic billboards on the side of the roads. I noticed my vision often going up to them while I was driving and being more engaged for longer periods of time than a regular billboard. It felt like a bad idea for road safety. Someone took it to the courts and now they have been shut off.
“Distraction is a leading cause of injury and death in driving and other high-stakes environments,” notes senior author McDonald. “There are individual differences in the ability to deal with distraction. New electronic products are designed to grab attention. Suppressing such signals takes effort, and sometimes people can’t seem to do it.”
It seems to me that another good study would be to take this new understanding and apply it to people during meditation.

For example, a simple practice like mindfulness of breath gives you an object to pay attention to, the breath. The intention is to bring attention to the breath and simply experience it as it comes in and goes out. It helps some people to say, “in” as they’re breathing in and “out” as they’re breathing out.

This is taught by mindfulness teachers all over the world. I also teach people this practice in the corporate world through an evidence-based live online program called Mindfulness at Work (only available to corporations through eMindful.com). Thousands of people have taken this program who are often practicing in cubicles with a number of coworkers talking next to them. These voices are distractions during the meditation and also while they’re working through the day. Needless to say, they’re voices they would often like to suppress.

The instruction is simple.
Consider that in any moment we have foreground and background awareness. The intention is to allow the breath to be in the foreground and the voices of the coworkers to be in the background. But inevitably the distracting voices pull attention and they come into the foreground.

That is perfectly fine.

When we become aware of that we are “mindful.” We can congratulate ourselves for waking up, note the voices and then gently allow them to go into the background of awareness while the breath comes back into the foreground.

We can do this again and again, like a gentle dance, strengthening the brain’s ability to pay attention to what we’re intending to pay attention to while it gets better and better at suppressing the sounds in the background (Note: there are also plenty of mindfulness practices that include being aware of all experience at once, but this one is a good example about working with focus).

What I’m finding is that neuroscience often tells us things we already know from experience. The people I’ve taught have noticed that they get better and better at playing with the foreground and background awareness and eventually are able to focus better often because there’s less stress around it.

Whether you are new to mindfulness or have a longstanding practice, here’s a short mindfulness of breath practice to dip in and play with foreground and background attention (Note: this a practice in The Now Effect and was originally intended for people who have the book. So you’ll notice in the video that I initially thank people for getting the book. You don’t need to have the book and the practice will start very shortly after that).

The ability to focus makes a huge difference at work and at home. Keep practicing, trusting that over time you can get better and better at mastering the focus of your mind.

Warmly,
Elisha Goldstein, PhD
PS – Learning how to gain better control over minds and in turn, our lives, is a key reason I created the new eCourse: Basics in Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program.


TAKE A DEEP BREATH and... "Open Up To Life"

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance." 
~John Lennon

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
What experiences have you had when you have allowed yourself to passionately open up to life?

SPH SAYS:
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and...
Open Up To Life."

Thursday, April 24, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and... "Heighten Your Awareness"


“Awareness is, in itself, curative." 
~Fritz Perls


SPH SAYS: 
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... 
Heighten Your Awareness."

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
What about yourself, others, and the world do you need to be more aware of?

REPOST: 20 Mini-Meditations (from psychcentral.com)

By
Associate Editor

No matter how hectic or stressful our days are, whether we’re sitting at our desks or waiting in line, we have the opportunity to pause and adjust our perspective.
We have the opportunity to be kinder — both to ourselves and others. We have the opportunity to relax and slow down. And we have the opportunity to refocus. Even if it’s for a minute or two.
In her book Self-Meditation: 3,299 Mantras, Tips, Quotes and Koans for Peace and Serenity, bestselling author Barbara Ann Kipfer offers a wealth of inspiration for practicing kindness and breathing in the beauty of daily moments and the miracles that are our lives.
Here are 20 of my favorite suggestions from her book.
  1. Let small chores act as a stop sign to “breathe, relax and experience peace.”
  2. Sit down and “become a human still life.” Don’t do anything. Just breathe.
  3. When you’re driving, focus solely on that experience. “Feel the steering wheel, the pedals, the seat.”
  4. “Listen for the quietest sound.”
  5. Focus on your sense of smell. Take something you’d like to smell, such as a flower or food, and put it up close to your nose. Notice the changes in the aroma. Focus on the sensations in your body as you inhale and exhale. Then try to focus on other fragrances around you throughout the day.
  6. Focus on your sense of touch. Focus on the sensation of your hands touching each other, “your clothes brushing against your skin, and the air moving across your face.”
  7. In the beginning of the week, pick an activity you normally do on autopilot, such as washing your hands, applying makeup or getting into your car. Pause for several seconds before starting the activity. Then perform it with your full attention.
  8. “Imagine that you are a kite soaring in the sky. Surrender to the wind, but be aware of the string that anchors you to the ground and keeps you safe.”
  9. When you’re performing a chore, focus your full attention on your hands. “Note all the sensations in your fingers, your palms, and your wrists.”
  10. Send yourself some loving-kindness (or “metta”). Focus your attention on an aspect of your mind or body that you feel separated from. Acknowledge this. You might say something like: “May I accept this. May I be filled with loving-kindness toward this. May I use the pain of this experience for the welfare of all.”
  11. As you’re trying to fall asleep, “imagine that with each breath you are melting into an ocean of light and space.”
  12. When you turn on the faucet, focus on the bigger picture. “See the water flowing down from the glaciers and mountains, running deep into the earth, sustaining you and all life.”
  13. When you wake up, feel your feet touch the floor. “Be aware of their weight, the floor supporting your body, and the motion of your feet and legs as you begin to walk.”
  14. When you get home from work, every day, stand in front of your door and appreciate the moment. Rejoice in it. “Breathe in and out three times.”
  15. Set an alarm to ring every hour to remind yourself to “wake up and appreciate the miracle of every moment. Say, ‘[Your name], wake up!”
  16. Picture your thoughts as balloons floating by.
  17. Visualize a mountain lake with a smooth, glassy surface. A breeze sends ripples across the water. As the breeze quiets down, so do the ripples, and the water returns to being smooth. When something ruffles you, return to this visualization. “Feel the ripples and then let them settle.”
  18. Think of your mind as a swinging door. “Thoughts and feelings come in and out, like people. Be the door, not the doorman.”
  19. Picture a person or pet you love greatly. Imagine they’re “giving you a look that melts your heart.” Think about the things you love most about them. With each breath you take, let your heart fill with love. “Imagine your two souls connected by the caring you have for each other.”
  20. “See yourself as a small child, fragile and vulnerable, and breathe in. Smile with love to this small child within yourself, and breathe out.”

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and... "Declare Your Freedom"


“This is a new day. The tide of battle has turned. Declare freedom from anything that is holding you back." ~Joel Osteen


SPH SAYS: 
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... 
Declare Your Freedom."

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
What will you free yourself from that is holding you back?



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Tuesday, April 22, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and... "Dare To Be Your Highest Self"


“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” ~May Sarton


SPH SAYS: 
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... 
Dare To Be Your Highest Self."

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
Are there aspects of your highest self that you are afraid of allowing to manifest fully?

Monday, April 21, 2014

TAKE A DEEP BREATH and... "Cultivate Your Passion"



“Don't set out to discover passion. Instead, set out to develop it." 
~Cal Newport



SPH SAYS: 
"TAKE A DEEP BREATH, EXHALE, and... 
Cultivate Your Passion."

THE FOCUS AND FLOW QUESTION: 
What are you passionate about that you will intentionally cultivate more actively?

Saturday, April 19, 2014

REPOST: The Tree of Contemplative Practices (from contemplativemind.org)



© The Center for Contemplative Mind in Society
Concept & design by Maia Duerr; illustration by Carrie Bergman

The Tree of Contemplative Practices


The Tree illustrates some of the contemplative practices currently in use in secular organizational and academic settings. This is not intended to be a comprehensive list. Below the Tree you will find links to descriptions of many of these practices as well as a more in-depth description of the Tree and image files for downloading.
Some of the practices on the tree link to further information–either on our website, or on Wikipedia.

Activist Practices

Creative Practices

Relational Practices

Ritual/Cyclical Practices

  • Ceremonies and Rituals based in Spiritual or Cultural Traditions
  • Establishing a Sacred/Personal Space
  • Retreats

Stillness Practices

Understanding the Tree

On the Tree of Contemplative Practices, the roots symbolize the two intentions that are the foundation of all contemplative practices. The roots of the tree encompass and transcend differences in the religious traditions from which many of the practices originated, and allow room for the inclusion of new practices that are being created in secular contexts.
The branches represent different groupings of practices. For example, Stillness Practices focus on quieting the mind and body in order to develop calmness and focus. Generative Practices may come in many different forms but share the common intent of generating thoughts and feelings, such as thoughts of devotion and compassion, rather than calming and quieting the mind. (Please note that such classifications are not definitive, and many practices could be included in more than one category.)
Because this illustration cannot possibly include all contemplative practices, we offer a free download of a blank Tree that you can customize to include your own practices. Activities not included on the tree (including those which may seem mundane, such as gardening or eating) may be understood to be contemplative practices when done with the intent of cultivating awareness and wisdom.

Downloading and Reprinting the Tree

You may use the tree for personal and non-commercial purposes. For example, please feel free to use it to illustrate an academic paper, post it on your blog, or display it in your organization’s meditation room. The Tree of Contemplative Practices is a copyrighted image. Commercial use, including derivative work, is not permitted without permission.
If the tree is published or presented in non-commercial use with our permission, you must mention The Center for Contemplative Mind in Society as the copyright holder of the image (the downloadable files, below, already contain this information as part of the image).
Please contact us at info@contemplativemind.org if you have questions regarding the use of the tree, or if you would like to share with us how you have used it in your work. Thank you!
For printingDownload a 2.6 MB, 8″ x 10″ .jpg image of the Tree of Contemplative Practices (if you require a .pdf or other sizes or formats, please contact us.)

A Blank Tree for Your Own Practices

Here’s a version of the Tree with the practice and branch names removed, so you can fill it in however you wish.
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